Knowing the accurate way to live will make our temporal life on this earth much more rewarding, because even though we are in the flesh we will not be controlled by it.

There are steps that I want to share with you; these steps will help us live a fulfilled life.

The 7 steps for The Walk of Believers are…

 New life- When we accept Christ Jesus in our life and devote our lives to him, we no longer are the same, but we become spiritual. We take on the Holy Spirit. It is so important to know that you are no longer a woman born into the sinful flesh that you once were. Do not put your confidence in yourself and in people, but in the Lord. When we are born again into our new life, we are no longer of our selves. We have a powerful support system stronger than that of which our husbands, careers, education, money and family can provide.

 Romans 6:4 Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, in order that as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life

Faith- Now faith is the complete opposite of fear. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen. The only way to have a rich relationship with God is by faith. Faith is the capacity to know and believe with every fiber of your bone that God is real, even though we cannot see him with our natural eyes. Faith helps our relationship grow and helps us seek God, and oh when we seek him diligently he will show himself strong by the blessings we receive and directions we receive. His spirit connects with our spirit.

2^nd Colossians 5:7 for we walk by Faith and not by sight.

 This verse is so simple and yet so powerful because the world bases their teachings and thinking on the “seeing is believing” frame of mind. We as the children of God should establish our mindset in knowing that there is a spiritual world that is more existent than this temporal earth in addition the spiritual world is eternal.

Spirituality- As women of God it is so imperative that we let our spirit reign supreme over the flesh at all times. Now remember this…

No one said that it would be easy; on the contrary it is such a vital aspect of the Christian lifestyle, especially as women.

Galatians 5:16 But I say, walk by the spirit and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh.

 If we walk by the spirit we will no longer worry about the things that can keep us in bondage, like our physical characteristics. Focusing on the outward appearances solely will turn you into a prisoner in your own shell. So many women take extreme measures to be like someone else. Our ultimate purpose should be to satisfy God. He is already pleased with how we look because he has made us perfect in his own image.  Please learn by heart that when we focus on walking by the spirit those old bad habits and desires must subside, like jealousy, fornication, lying and infidelity. The Holy Spirit can only communicate with your Spirit when your life form is in the proper order. Your Spirit should be first and then the soul and lastly the flesh. Then you will have peace because the peace of our God will overtake you.

 I know this first hand because for years I struggled with insecurity with my outward appearance, but when I accepted the Lord into my life, God fixed my order and set me in the proper layout. I thank God for the woman I am on the inside because it has no choice but to show on the outside.

Consistency –  As women of God called according to his purpose, we must remember at all times  that there are people on the outside of spirituality, looking for new hope. They are looking for a change, and a possibility to find peace and the joy that only God can provide. In order to be the appropriate example that God has called us to be as his children; joint heirs with Christ, we must consistently stay in the Word.  Staying in the word does not mean to just read it and hear it, but to actually do what the word says on a regular basis. Living a Christ like life should be our first and only nature. It takes consistency. We cannot expect to be elevated in the Lord while being wishy washy and double minded. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. That’s not how God wants us to be.

 Ephesians 4:1 I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called,

Love- God is the true and perfect example of what love really is. He created us in his image and gave us the earth to live in with everything we need to survive. Not only did he create us but he desires to fellowship with us. How fortunate are we, the creator of our universe wants to dwell in our presence. He then discerned that we needed to be saved from our evil ways. God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son Jesus Christ, so that we can have a chance. He has given us the opportunity of an everlasting life full of royalty, majesty, prosperity, and peace.  So as children we must also give the unchanging love to all, regardless of how people may treat us or what they may say about us.  In order to love others we must first love God with all of our hearts and then love ourselves.

Ephesians 5:2 and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you, and gave himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

 Caution- Again ladies, remember that the spiritual walk is not an easy walk, but the outcome is so much more rewarding than what we can ever imagine. It is so important to recognize that because we are Christ like we should not blend in with everyone else, but our talk and our way of life must be different.

 Ephesians 5:15 Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise,

 7. Light- If we are the light, then why is the world so dark? Selah

 1^st John 1:7 but if we walk in the light as He Himself is in light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood  of Jesus His son cleanses us from all sin.

Our ultimate goal is to live a Christ Like life and the steps given to walk as a believer, comes straight from the Word of God which is the sword of Spirit.

Take heed ladies. Jesus loves you and so do I.

The joy of the Lord is my strength,

I am created for God,

I was made in his image, and this is why I say to all women rich, poor, young and old, educated or not

Open up your heart and let God in…

He’s knocking! Are you willing to let your creator in? Or will you harden your heart and quench the Spirit?

Whether you are aware of it or not, you are here to serve God and Yes!  His grace and mercy is what’s keeping you. It’s not your own power; it’s the Lord’s agape love for you.

Please be advised that every day on this earth, in the flesh, is the perfect opportunity to get ourselves closer to God. And accept Christ Jesus as our personal savior.

I’m sure we have all experienced a death in our family or have known of someone who passed away, whether it was a sudden death or due to illness it has made a significant impact on our life.

Some will try to live their lives to please themselves through shopping sprees, makeovers, extreme plastic surgery or through intimate relationships.

Others might join an organization to give back to the public through charities, volunteerism, or travel ministries.

Some people will gain the mindset that life is not promised to us daily and that there is an eternity after the life on this earth which is temporal. So they will seek and find a relationship with Christ Jesus because no one can get to the Father (God) except by the Son (Jesus)

God wants us all to live for him so that we can make it to heaven on that Glorious day. Unfortunately some people will harden their hearts and not accept the fact that God is real and gave His Son so that we can be born again and partake in the inheritance of eternal life.

I have personally experienced his love, his peace, his presence where there is fullness of joy.

God is real

I write this to tell you that every day in the Lord is sweeter than the last and true peace comes from the Lord our God. Cast your cares on him because he cares for you and me.

BE ENCOURAGED

Life has its tendency to throw you different challenges from left and right. It’s like one minute you are a head and before you can say YaaaaY! You are back to where you started, or have even taken a step or two back.

Just know that whatever the case may be you are loved and you are not forgotten.

Think of this blog as encouragement directly from God, because I write to you, as I receive support from God.

 I am almost there; If only I could just stay in the fight, I will see my victory. 

I know that I have to go through some trial and tribulations and I know that the walk of life cannot be just green grass and Sunny skies everyday all day.

How will I ever grow and appreciate the outcome without rain.  

We have all heard the saying April Showers bring May flowers, that just goes to show that as the earth goes through different seasons so must we.

As I sit at my desk directly in front of a window in my second floor apartment, I’m noticing how gray and dreary the sky looks right now. I pause and I think to myself, this is exactly how I feel right now inside, dark gray and dreary.

But I am a more than a conqueror- a victor in a war; I am a child of God, joint heirs with Jesus. 

Lord you said you will never leave me nor forsake me and from my experience, I know your word is true.

Oh yes! And Ladies it is so true,

 I have been going through so much lately from physical to emotional bind, but as I write to you I can tell you with no doubt, that God at this moment, real time, is formulating things to work in my favor. For a while I did not write because I put myself in a woe is me frame of mind, I know better than that.

When life gets darker you have to pray a little harder.

I heard someone so dear to me say that God would not bring us this far to leave us alone, and I see it so clearly now that He did not leave me.

When we are in the midst of the storm, and the winds are so strong, the rain falls so hard as if it’s trying to personally sting us, and when we look up into the sky the clouds can be so thick and gray as if the sun will never shine and use its powerful rays to heat the earth for those long summer days.

 But oh when God steps in and minister to your soul like he is ministering to mine telling me to

“Hold on my precious child, I am with you, don’t doubt me Rashida, my righteous one. Only believe and cast your cares on me for this battle is mine, not yours and I have already prepared a way of escape for you”.

Thank you Lord for loving me, even when the enemy tries to convince me that no one does.

To all of my sisters in Christ wherever, whoever, and whatever you are.

 Jesus loves you and so do I.

The ugliness behind lust and the beauty of love is so imperative to recognize. As women, we desire to share true love and if we are not careful, we can easily confuse it with lust, believe it, or not it happens excessively.

So let us start from the beginning,

What is lust?

 1.  The strong physical desire to have sex with somebody, usually without associated feelings of love or affection 

2.  Great eagerness or enthusiasm for something

Now what is Love? Love is a word we use broadly; here are some ideas,

1.  To feel tender affection for somebody such as a close relative or friend, or for something such as a place, an ideal, or an animal 

2.   To feel romantic with sexual desire and longing for somebody 

3.   To like something, or like doing, something very much

 4.  to feel and show kindness and charity to somebody

Q. Is there an easier way to break down the definition of “Love”?

A. Honestly knowing the God I serve, absolutely. His desire is for us to be enlightened.

Q. Are there different types of love?  

A. Yes! There are three types of love, shared in the New Testament.

Q. Is one type of love better than the rest? Moreover, which one is the best?

Read on, and find out what they actually are, and you be the judge.

 Agape: means charity, or a living kind of caring love for someone. Essentially, it signifies doing and caring for someone as much as you care for yourself. This is a godly love and can manifest even if you do not necessarily like someone or know him or her. Only God himself can give and teach this kind of love.

Agape, known as the unconditional and unchangeable love illustrates in John 13:1 and it reads

Now before the feast of the Passover, Jesus knowing that His hour had come that He should depart out of this world to the father, having loved His own who were in the world, He loved them to the end.

Agape is also a Divine love, John 15:9 says

“Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love.

This love is so real and true that it is Self-Sacrificing, expressed in John 15:13

“Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.

Do you know of anyone in your life today that would literally lose his or her life for you? I personally do not know anyone on the earth who would for me. However, I know a man who because of his Agape Love for all of us, whether you acknowledge him or not died on the cross for our sins, and his name is Jesus, God in the flesh.

Agape is the love that is wholly, selfless, and spiritual. A Christian love; felt by Christians for their fellow human beings.

Eros is probably what most people mean when they announce with a smile, “I’m in love.” This type of love covers everything from queasy stomachs and warm fuzzy feelings to strong sensual passion. Kind of like the cupid effect that we hear about or see on TV.

There are a couple of very interesting characteristics about Eros. Eros is dependent upon the situation and circumstances. As long as a couple is enjoying a romantic situation, Eros can thrive. However, as soon as hurtful words or actions appear, Eros simply evaporates. Eros is the love of perception, for example, if two people are in a relationship and if one person believes that everything is ok and in place and the other has different desires and feelings then the Eros kind of love will not last.

Eros is…I love you today only if you do things my way or keep me satisfied, and drama free. That sort of deal; it is not a realistic and loyal form of love.

Phileo is another type of love that is, a form brotherly love, like “Philadelphia” known as the city of brotherly love. It is the love of friendship. Usually between best friends, and the fellowship of being with those people you enjoy.

Although Phileo is wonderful, it too is not reliable. It can hold captive by the shifting sands of situation as well as by ours and other’s perceptions and expectations.          Unfortunately, we probably all know of a friendship, that is derelict or in ruins because of time, distance, harsh words, and interpretation of another’s actions. When the New Testament commends love, Phileo is the not the word which is used.

I believe that many relationships are incomplete and will not last and conqueror trials or have the strength to make it through because they depend solely on the Phileo style of love.

Therefore, as woman isn’t true that we all want to know what the guys are thinking. Especially, when it comes to lust and love?

I personally asked a couple of young men whether they knew the difference between lust and love.

If they universally believe that, most men understand the difference.

In addition, what is love and lust for them personally.

This is what they said…

Guy A answered-

“Yes I do know the difference, I think true unconditional love can be the best or the worst emotion that someone can feel. When you lust after someone, you do not care if they have eaten for the day or if they had a restful sleep. When you love someone, you will stick by them when they’re sick and smell bad from the bubble guts. Lust is yo holla at me when that’s better! So we can get it in! Love is stronger than pride. The key is not to waste your love on an undeserving person”

Interesting right

Well here is how Guy B responded…

“Love is when you treat the significant other as royalty and lust is like taking them to KFC for dinner because you don’t care about giving them the best, all you care about is getting them in the bed”

So there you have it, women, two different ideas from two different guys.

Now let us get back to us.

Our core focus should be to receive God’s love and in doing so, we can then show the same godly love for everyone around us.

Therefore, to all women young and old it is time to stop falling for the same lustful relationships and desires. Please do not be confused lust does not necessarily mean sex. People can lust after materialistic possessions, wealth, and property, which in the same way can cause us to overlook the Agape love of God.

We are worth so much more than temporal relationships and fixations; true love is waiting for you in Christ Jesus.

We all have experienced or have seen someone fall into a predicament, which caused the outcome to feel uncomfortable, unpleasant, irreversible, and unforgiveable. If you have experienced those feelings personally, I am sure that you can bear witness that it is not a great place to be.

Ladies I am talking to us now, our kind, to us and us only

It is time to mature

The silly, childish decisions must cease, we have to get to the point of noticing when something is a scheme or trick to throw us off track. I too can sit back and think of many things in my past that I should not have tried and allowed in my atmosphere.  

As a young single mother, I know that my children are gifts from God, my little blessings, in which I thank God for daily. I had my first child in high school and boy was I ashamed and worried about what people would say, but I knew that aborting my baby was not an option. I also knew that premarital sex was not of God, but did it anyway. Not because I was young and stupid, definitely was not forced, and no the devil did not make me, that was all me. My flesh wanted to reign supreme, my flesh also wanted what it thought would be spontaneous or even cool.

 That is so lame right. I know, I know

In addition,

 I cannot use the fact that I was only sixteen as an excuse. I grew up in the church and I knew right from wrong.

So why do we blame our own actions on everything and everyone else except ourselves?

Do you ever feel like you are getting the same results, no matter what you do? Do you ever wonder why you only meet the same type of people?

If you are asking yourself those questions right now, then it is time for you to change.

Yes! It is you

You see, we have to monitor what we allow and do not allow in our lives, whether it is people, tangible things, even our thoughts.

In the past, I wanted to be in a relationship so bad. I wanted  a male in my life to hang out with, to comfort me, to keep company when I was lonely,  and to just hold me you know cuddle,  and because it was something I wanted immediately,  I grew impatient which can be very detrimental.

Moreover, it was

Because I lacked patience, I fell for anything and yes anybody. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and you knew that is was not for you? I had that same feeling, many a day.

I allowed my feelings and beliefs to compromise because I did not want to let the relationship go. Even though the warning signs were flashing like bright neon lights saying “leave those guys alone” I did want to let it go.

 I was impregnated with my second child at the age of 19. Before I met the father, I had given my life to the Lord, and I mean I was at a point where God was using me in so many ways, at work and in church. I was satisfied and happy. The sex stopped as well as the men, and I was content.

However, I forgot one simple thing…

First Peter 5:8 reads

Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

I in my opinion let my guard down.

When I met my second child’s father, even though I was sober I was not on the alert, as I should have been; reading more, fasting and prayer would have definitely helped me in my problem area, sex.

 I was intrigued by that man and was eager to nurture him to Christ, even to the point that I bought him a bible. However, I needed a strength increase for myself and because of my own weakness; I fell flat on my face when temptation came into play.

I neglected to seek God, the yearning just subsided, prayer discontinued and no longer did I read the bible for spiritual strength, it all concluded. I was so far out and away from the will of God; the hunger to hear him speak became nonexistent.

The word also says in First Peter 5:9

But resist him, (the devil) firm in your faith, knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being accomplished by your brethren who are in the world.

I should have known that I, serving the Lord and walking in his will was the safest and most rewarding place to be. Though I wanted companionship, God was trying to build me and mold me into a woman of faith, wisdom, and virtue so that I could receive his blessings and keep the blessings.

Nevertheless, it was my own decision to walk away from his guidance

When I became pregnant again, I was so confused, and I felt like it was my punishment. I was always against abortion but when the body is malfunctioning, you would not imagine what comes to mind.

After weeks and weeks of thinking what I should do? A feeling of warmth and security overtook me and a voice spoke so soft and sweet to me saying, “Everything is going to be all right”. I knew it was the voice of God speaking to my spirit, and God had a special plan for that unborn baby, my baby boy.

Though I left his side, he never left mine.

First Peter 5:10 reads  

And after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.

I love both of my children, and I am a believer that whatever mistakes you made, even if you are still reaping the pain from them, By giving your life to the Lord, God himself will turn it around and use them for your good.

What the enemy tried to use as my setback God turned it around as a stepping stool and I am bless immensely.

 Therefore, women we all have made mistakes, but if you continue to walk in error, you will then give catastrophe opportune to invade your life and your future. 

We all know right from wrong so stop using the same tired out excuses like…

I am still young

I never had a daddy

I need someone to love me

I am afraid of being alone

I do not want to be a prune

I am having way too much fun

There were many times, instances where I would get ready to do something that I knew was not right, and a bad feeling would come right away.

We all know right from wrong.

So please do not permit yourself to make the same silly mistakes. God wants to bless you and use you for his purpose.

The only way that can possibly happen, is if you make up your mind and come to Jesus. There are many ministries who are here and called by God to help us.  However, it is oh so important to learn of God for yourself and he will reveal what it is that he has ordained for your life.

Read the bible pray and meditate, let God speak to you.

Let go of the people with no aspiration to help elevate your mind in Christ Jesus, when I say let them go, stop giving them so much of your time and  learn to pray for them; that they too can be whole.

God loves you more than you can possibly imagine, and He is so real,

I am a living breathing testimony.

I do not have to worry about what I do not have

I do not have to live in fear

I don’t have to sin to keep a man

I do not have to compete with other women

I do not have to brag to make myself look good before people

I do not have to change my personality to please a man

I do not have to shut my mouth when it comes to the goodness of the Lord

I can say no when I need to

I can speak my mind and not be afraid of people

I can walk in my spiritual gifts with utterance from the Lord

I can pray in faith that God hears me

I can discern the voice of the Lord and the voice of the enemy

I can Love you because the love of God lives in me, and if you lean and depend on God so can you.

It was my first road trip alone on the thru way, and out of the 7 ½ years of having a license, the right to operate a motor vehicle, three hours was the longest ever driven.

  Oh boy did I pick the perfect time,

 I could feel myself heat up inside of my light pea coat, to the point that lowering the heat was the only option.  With my blackberry connected to the vehicle power charger and VZ navigator downloaded to guide me along, a sense of ease was still impossible to find.

When we are in vulnerable stages, we can easily give fear opportune to take over our minds and then our actions.

 Ridiculous thoughts constantly popped into my head like, if I slide off the road no one will ever find me, if my vehicle stalls then I will freeze to death, all types of stupid thoughts. It had gotten to the point where I had to remember who I am, who’s I am and who I serve;  I am a child of God, and I serve a loving God, a mighty God, An awesome God, A powerful God, and the reminder of prayer overtook those crazy fearful thoughts immediately.

Prayer is powerful and praise is our weapon

Since the Old Testament days, before Christ was born, there has always been a universal need of prayer. People had to call on the name of the Lord it says it in Genesis 4:26 And to Seth, to him also a son was born; and he called his name Enosh. Then men began to call upon the name of the Lord.

There is no right or wrong way to say a prayer.

Prayer is a spoken or unspoken address to God; it may express praise, thanksgiving, confession, or a request for something such as help or somebody’s well-being. When you pray, you communicate freely with God.

Prayer does not mean secret, you do not have make your request known to God after you are away from people and alone behind closed doors on your knees.  You can communicate with God any and everywhere. You can have your eyes open, you can be in the middle of a huge crowd, you can pray aloud or without verbally speaking. Any one at any age can pray and praise God.

Now the people who the bible talks about prayed, even though they had powerful callings over their lives.

 God answer prayers, examples of these…

Moses-   Exodus 15:24 So the people grumbled at Moses, saying, “What shall we drink?” Exodus 15:25 Then He cried out to the Lord, and the Lord showed him a tree; and he threw it into the waters, and the waters became sweet. There He made for them a statute and regulation, and there He tested them.

Elijah- 1^st kings 18:37 “answer me, O Lord, answer me, that this people may know that Thou, O Lord, art God, and that Thou hast turned their heart back again

Jesus- The son of God, God in the flesh, perfect in all his ways also prayed.

In the Garden of Gethsemane Luke 22:41, 42 And he withdrew from them about a stone’s throw, and he knelt down and began to pray, saying, “Father, if Thou art willing, remove this cup from Me; yet not my will, but thine be done.”

Peter- Acts 10:9 And on the next day, as they were on their way, and approaching the city, Peter went up on the housetop about the sixth hour to pray.

That is so powerful to me!

When I was driving in the terrible weather, that I described earlier in the blog, I felt the need to pray, because I needed God to help right then in there.  I  now have the faith in knowing that no matter where I am, whether I feel alone or not I can speak to God and not only will he hear me but  he will make his presence known.

Moreover, he did,

After I prayed, a feeling of peace wrapped around me and I began to thank God for guiding me and for being that fence of protection. Before I could say halleluiah I was in an area where the roads were as dry as a summer night, I smiled while giving thanks to the Lord.

Before you pray and if someone asks you to pray, never worry about what you are going to say because the Holy Spirit aids in prayer.

The word says in Romans 8:26 And in the same way the spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groaning too deep for words.

Our fleshly being cannot possibly see nor comprehend the dangers that can so easily ensnare us, so the Holy Spirit gives us the utterance to pray, as we should.

One of the many conditions for successful prayer is Faith

The word so eloquently explains it in Mark 11:24

“Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they shall be granted you.”

Therefore, after you pray for something you no longer need to ask for the same thing, in prayer make your request known and then pray with thanksgiving for that of which you already asked.

Let us keep each other in prayer, because prayer truly changes situations and can change our present and future circumstances.

So don’t you be shaken by your situation troubles won’t last always, just walk by faith and not by what you see, Put your trust in Jesus and believe (lyrics from an old song by the female gospel group “Witness”)

I am sharing those lyrics because it is so easy for us to sit and dwell on our setbacks, when we should concentrate on God’s will for us. It is vital to know with faith the outcome will be so much greater, because God ultimately has the solution to every predicament whether big or small.

Second Corinthians 4:17 reads

For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of Glory  far beyond  all comparison, Verse 18 while we look not at the things which are seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Never give all of your attention to tribulations in doing so a molehill can quickly turn into a mountain.

For we walk by faith and not by sight.

You might not see the way out or know how the problem will end, but only God can fix it. So let it go and let God

How do we let go and let God?

Be of good courage

Read the bible and meditate on the word

Put your focal point on the good things that are happening in your life, as well as the situations that God has already turned around. In doing this your faith can be built because you will know that if he did it before then he can do it again.

Surround yourself around positive influences, people who know the goodness of God and are willing to share the good news to give God the glory. You are not alone.

What do you do when you love someone so much to the point that you would do anything and everything you possibly can to show that person that the love you feel is so unconditional?

What about that love that is so strong that it hurts, yes it hurts so bad that sometimes you wish it were not there at all. I am not talking about the physical pain, but pain that causes your heart to fill with a sense of heaviness.

Is true love supposed to feel this way?

I felt the need to give so much of myself even if it meant putting my feelings on the back burner. Was I wrong? All I desired to do is prove my love for him I needed him to see that I appreciate him for who he really is. I never asked for material things, that stuff just did not matter to me. I made love to him even when I knew it was against God’s will to prove to him that he has me completely.

I would not nag him when I needed more attention, I did not investigate his stuff when I felt like he was not fully committed to me. I did not press him about his many female friends, and I did not question him when he did not call me back even when he said he would. I did not yell or put him down when he would make hurtful jokes and criticize my body.

Did I settle myself short?

No matter how I try to convince myself that he is with me and that is all that matters, I need more.

Maybe it is I; maybe I am the one who is tripping

In addition, even the old thoughts come into play, that I am just not good enough

NO!

I am good enough

I am a treasure a rare kind of beauty.

Despite my past downfalls, I am perfect in God’s sight

I am forgiven and not forsaken

I am bless because Jesus loves me

 Moreover, so are you

We should never put our faith in people; if we do, we will be disappointed.

Sometimes the ones, who love us the most, can turn around and hurt us the worst.

Nevertheless, remember it does not mean to give up on those people and loose all hope for them. We must pray for them even when we want them to feel the pain that they cause us.

Romans 12:20 reads, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says The Lord. 

At one point, I personally had the mindset to do those dudes as they use to do me. That was not from God, nor is that of God.

The word also says in Romans 12:14 bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse

Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.

Now remember…

Being compassionate, loving, and charitable does not mean that you deserve to be mistreated. God wants to direct us in every aspect of life. Yes! Even in our romantic relationships.

Here are some helpful tips

1. Seek God first for every decision you make: Pray, read the bible and seek Godly wisdom
2. Speak the truth: Tell the significant person how you really feel about the things that are going on. Never keep it inside because it will build up and that can be unhealthy.
3. Surround yourself around people with the same desires, ambitions, and goals as yourself. Do not be afraid to ask for help. You are not alone.
4. Take care of yourself: Eat right, exercise, and do things that make you happy whether it’s reading a good book, listening to your favorite artist, spending time with friends and family or even if it’s just taking a hike.
5. Love you: No matter what you did in the past, regardless of where you are in your life or desire to be, love you.

What keeps women in bondage more than anything else?

Some might blame men, our parents, or even the society. I cannot speak for everybody but based on some of the things I have actually seen in life, I believe that the thing that hinders us the most is our past.

Yes our past pain, heartaches, relationships, shortcomings, and mishaps if we do not seek deliverance can stop our blessings and growth.

A woman now 35 in age is still haunted by her promiscuous teenage years. She was the hottest girl in school, I mean she had it all it seemed. Her hair was long and silky she had the perfect shape proportioned in all the right areas; she had a caramel colored skin tone with flawless skin. Now this young woman was also athletic and she was intellectual and articulate with an independent mindset. What seemed perfect was far from reality; she lacked confidence and did not realize her significance.

Men quickly took interest in her because of her outer beauty, she could not clearly see the beauty she carried within and fell into the trap of the need to be wanted. The men told her exactly what she wanted to hear and she began to give away her treasure.  One man turned into three and then into twenty –five by the end of her senior year of High school.

Was it worth the name calling by both male and female? It had even gotten to the point where mothers and fathers would forbid their daughters from hanging out with her and their sons from dating her. Now this young woman was clearly seeking something at the time something she had no idea of, but in her mind and heart she knew that there was something bigger and greater for her.

Now that she is older with kids of her own and married, she still cannot find a way to let go of the pain from the reputation that caused her to leave a city that she loved so dearly and family that told her no matter how people viewed her, she is still beautiful in God’s eyes.  After graduating college with honors and living on her own with a wonderful career, she found a church home and that is where the man of her dreams found her.  Even though she gave her life to the Lord, the pain from her teenage years still puts fear in her heart and she has not been able to elevate spiritually in her gifts from God.

Now every woman’s story is different and we have all experienced different situations in life. However, our past does not have to dictate our future. I too did plenty of things that I am not proud of, I cannot dwell on those things, how can I make room for the future that God has prepared for me?

We can be our toughest critics and can condemn ourselves even when God has already forgiven us.

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